Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People

I can truly say without hesitation that this book helped me resolve most - if not all - of the cognitive dissonance that I was STILL experiencing after two and a half YEARS of No Contact... in about 48 hours. I attained more closure (lol!) and insight from this book than from 2 years of intense therapy. Of everything I have ever read on this subject in an attempt to get past it and move forward, this is the last word. This book confirms for me the idea that until you have gone through this exact experience yourself, you cannot help or advise or really understand anyone who has. It is truly a "my life before and my life after" type of experience. Thank you Jackson for writing this book and for the website which was one of the best resources for dealing with the aftermath of a relationship with a toxic/disordered person. Your work is invaluable. Thank you. AN ABSOLUTE REVELATION. A MUST READ. P.S. I am going to comment on a few of the other reviews I read here as I feel there are possibly a few misconceptions. I noticed several people addressing the issue of the website being down. I stumbled across the site two plus years ago, in a completely random attempt to scour the internet for some nebulous answer to what I had just experienced. Blindly reaching for something.. anything to help me ease the pain and quiet my frantic yet relentless thoughts about the relationship. At that time the book was still in ebook form and if I remember correctly was on the brink of being published. The forums and threads were an absolute godsend. The Aha! moments Oprah refers to were washing over me in waves. In addition to the content there, there were links to resources that eventually led me to other immensely helpful sites. Kim Saeed at Let Me Reach and Love Fraud and Melanie Tonia Evans are in my opinion all particularly thorough, lucid and healing. I think that if you have ever really experienced a relationship with a disordered person you may be able to glean the answer as to why the forum portion of the site was taken down after the book was published. Disordered people are all on a spectrum like people with autism. Varying degrees of severity, if you will. Some are particularly dangerous and deranged. They can stalk a target and very often do after the relationship. Adding insult to injury seems a fitting metaphor. Perhaps the site being closed to the public was nothing more than a security and self-protection measure. Just a thought. One specific review was less than kind and although that individual has every right to his or her opinion I cannot even imagine using the term "whiny" to descibe this book. No survivor would ever belittle or minimize the story of another survivor. Yes, fellow reviewer, this experience is most definitely the same for everyone who has actually experienced it. Not every detail assuredly but the emotions, stages, symptoms, YES. Without question. I saw some part of my story in each and every story I have ever read or heard. Hundreds. I know you read the book, but I doubt that you actually had a run in with a psychopath. Enough said.

I was left feeling broken and used after a year and a half longer relationship with a disordered person who also happened to be my coworker and classmate. In the midst of the worst smear campaign I could have ever imagined, I was barely functioning. Thankfully I stumbled upon a friend's repost on Facebook from the page "There is love and light after Narcissistic abuse." And then it all clicked--I wasn't crazy, I'm suffering from co-dependency issued and I am an empath by nature. Add to that the turmoil and trauma bonding and voila, I had the perfect storm for a terrible relationship. This book is full of life-changing knowledge and once you recognize emotional abuse and work through those feelings, this knowledge will become your power. I only wish I had found this sooner so I could have started my healing journey sooner. Not only does the author do a good job of organizing the book, but also he offers personal insight and refrains from using tons of clinical jargon. He is factual but also reached you on a much more personal level. I found myself frustrated with my family and friends who couldn't understand why I was still suffering from this relationship months after it ended and this book outlines exactly how you get to this point and what to do about it. Not only that but it's full of encouragement and affirmations, which I have found to be extraordinarily helpful. The author helps you to reframe something traumatic in a way that allows you to start becoming your own number one fan, instead of supply for psychopathic people. In the aftermath of this relationship I was left feeling empty, depressed, and hurting. This book will not fix all of your issues but it has helped me make more progress in just one week than I could have ever imagined prior to picking this up.

I am only a couple chapters in but I already feel as if the author knows exactly what I’ve been through! It is a very easy read and it’s helping me go through the motions of healing as well as pointing out what to look for in the future to avoid evil people.

Recovery begins with nailing what your abuser is, especially when he is a psychopath and this book will help you see that, if indeed your abuser is one. Everything in this book is bang on. It will hurt in parts but it will name what you are dealing with, validate your experiences (when likely no one close to you personally can), and it will show you you had no chance against this twisted mind, so stop beating yourself up about where you went wrong. I became the victim of a psychopath in 2010. I was one of the ones who smelled a rather toxic rat and broke things off. Sure enough, 3 years and counting I am still being stalked, terrorised, harrassed, my car is vandalised (resulting in massive car crash through an electricity pylon which I am lucky to survive), my movements constantly monitored on and offline. Yes I agree with this book my stalker took turns to drive me to suicide or provoke/goad me to get back in touch with him (this wasn't because he wanted me to come back to him. He was setting me up as all psychopaths do. He was desperate to tell me he was married now and really really really happy. My psychopath is a callous sadistic stalker, voyeur, pervert and major criminal who enjoys his freedom when he should most certainly be in prison. He is a very dangerous man wrapped up in a bumbling english country gentleman persona, 'what me, why I couldn't even hurt a fly'. He will not only hurt a fly but you, your friends and even your children if it frightens you. His persona is drivel but it is a persona that fools a lot of people. I am paying a high price for sussing him out. This psychopath has done everything, just short of murdering me ( I hope I do not speak too prophetically) though he has goaded me to kill myself and as I say tampered with my car which many times could have resulted in my death. This book covers all of this. This is what psychopaths do and they don't just do it to you. If you are persecuted by them it's because you are stronger than them. In a way it's a compliment. They can't ever have the women they really want because the women they really want will always suss them out so they they have to settle and when they settle and feel entirely unsatisfied in their 'settled' relationship, they boil with anger inside and take it out on the women they couldn't have/keep. YOU! THIS BOOK IS ESSENTIAL READING to begin the process of stopping your mind going over and over and over and over again why it's your fault. What on earth did you do? You must have treated him very badly indeed. You must be a very bad person to attract such awfulness into your life. If only you knew what you had done so you could fix it. Read this book. Forget fixing a monster and concentrate on fixing yourself. Get some validation. No one else except other victims can give you that. So start by getting some from this book. You must firmly root in your mind that these people are inhuman. Inhuman. Completely and utterly inhuman to an extent you will find difficult to believe because you are so entirely human. I remember telling my psycho about a historical TV documentary I watched where scientists had performed cruel experiments on babies. The programme disturbed me and I described one of the dreadful experiments that was performed on a baby boy to my psycho stalker. Instead of being as disturbed as I was he laughed and began to act out how the baby must of looked during the experiment. My blood ran cold. I didn't understand back then what I was dealing with. I do now. A monster. If you are a victim of a psychopath take heart. Read this book over and over. Get some validation for your experiences. Be amazed at how precisely right it is in every way. And firmly root in your mind that they are inhuman. Stop endowing them with normal human qualities. They don't have any. This is what makes you better than them. No matter how it feels, no matter who they are, they are not better than you. Don't believe it when they stop at nothing to brainwash you into thinking that they are superior to you. They are not. They know they are not. That's why they have to work so hard convincing you you are worthless. TOXIC!!! Read this book. It might hurt a bit in parts, but in the end you'll just feel so validated when you do. Eventually you will stop thinking about them in ways that hurt you, you will start to get angry, then you will feel repulsed by them and then finally indifferent to them. I'm not entirely indifferent yet because i maintain a constant dialogue with the police because of the stalking but I am repulsed and certainly harbour not a shred of warm feeling for him, no matter how rosy it seemed at times in the past. Thank god. The bits about this book I suggest heeding most are the bits about looking after yourself. Treat yourself kindly. Look after yourself mentally, physically spiritually and really do apply the rules of no contact which are most vital. I wish I had had more strength during the worst times. This has without doubt been the worst period of my life and it has spoiled a substantial portion of my children's young life too. I don't know how I would have coped had I not found resources such as this book to illuminate the minds of these heinous people terrorists.

Livre intéressant donnant un aperçu des relations toxiques sans trop de complications. Il couvre la psychologie de base de la douleur émotionnelle et comment aller de l'avant.

I would highly recommend this book. It is easy to read and it is full of helpful information. It has helped me to understand what I am going through. It has crossed every T and dotted every i for explaining this type of emotional abuse. The book comes from the standpoint of a lover being a psychopath but I have found that it has helped me even though in my case it is a family member who is the psychopath. I have found it healing and comforting to get such validation for what I am going through. The abuse of these awful people is so underhanded sometimes we don't understand why we hurt so much. Great read!

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very interesting book