21 Traps You Need to Avoid in Dating & Relationships

I don't know about anyone else but I definitely wasn't an expert at dating and relationships out of the gate. I made so many mistakes, dated so many losers, and had my heart broken so many times over the years that I should write my own book. It would be pretty depressing though so, instead I would recommend that anyone who wants to short-cut the heartache read author Brian Keephimattracted's "21 Traps You Need to Avoid in Dating & Relationships." No joke - this is a list of twenty-one things and each chapter (one for each) is filled with some solid gold information that is sure to keep you on the path to finding the right person. As women, we have a tendency to play way too much towards the opposite sex, either dressing only to please them, going only to the places that they want to go, not being ourselves, or a myriad of other behaviors that aren't going to serve us long term. This is a difficult thing to get away from, some never do, and the author spends a lot of time instructing women to be themselves and to stop giving away their power. There are some other great tips in here as well that deal with things such as ex's, jealousy, and much more. This is a fantastic read that I would recommend to both men and women who want to find true happiness in a relationship. I loved the stories that were woven throughout as illustrations of certain behaviors and found this to be a very worthwhile and well written read.

I’m a 36 year old woman and I can honestly say I’m having trouble finding the right man. I find it hard to get past the first couple of dates and even when I get ‘lucky’ and have a relationship, it fails. I noticed the same story always unfolds, regardless of who I’m with. So I figured it must be me. I must be doing something wrong. That’s when I found and bought the book “21 Traps”. What an eye opener! It was me! I was stepping into the attraction-killing traps Brian mentions. I was aware of some of the traps but have to admit that knowledge didn’t prevent me from stepping into them time and time again. What I liked about Brian’s’ book is that he explains “how to not fall into any of the traps”. I like the strategies he gives and have already tested a couple of them to great success. I can now see why my past relationships failed. Each and every time at least 3 or more of the traps were present. That cannot be an accident. Thank you Brian, I can see clearly now. Thanks for giving me back my power. I won’t make these mistakes again! Jolene

I thought this book was good - certainly better than most of his others and better than many on the market. What I appreciated is that it didn't advocate playing games or adapting your whole life to please a man. I bought another book this week that said you have to stomp out your man's competition and do whatever he wants better than anyone else to keep him. Um what? Exhausting and bad advice. But this book advocates being authentic, standing up for yourself in a respectful and calm way, using your feminine power and just generally understanding men and how to date them in a way that is more evolved than manipulation and games but is all focused on YOU and not THEM. I thought this book was intelligent also (he should get an editor for typos though) and discussed matters from a clear laymen's view with higher order psychological examples mixed in with stories to really drive home understanding of the points. Good read! I will read it often and start practicing what he preaches. Note: if none of this works for you, you're probably with a narcissist or other emotionally unavailable man so just cut your losses and run to a better mate. Trust me. Cheers to all us seekers finding and succeeding in love! <3

I really appreciated this book. I have read one similar to it but the difference is his explanations. Instead of advising women to “ do this because it works” he explains why it works and what it means. For example, allowing guy time was expressed perfectly.

This book was very informative. While reading, some points for me were brought back to my attention, and other points that I'd never thought about were brought to the surface. I enjoyed this book and look forward to reading more.

Omg- I have been so dumb. I am 46 & divorced and dating again. I am exceptionally pretty and do NOT look my age. I am intelligent (go figure) and successful and funny and engaged in life. A great catch, right? I can attract best in class men. Yet I just can't keep them for five minutes when I am perfectly sane & normal. OMG! I have made every mistake in this book! In retrospect I can see every potential relationship that I have flushed down the toilets over initiating texts - too much communication- or worse wasting time not accepting that he is just not that into me - even though I don't want to believe it. I have been so dumb - over some very VERY simple things. All single women should know this stuff because men are pretty much all the same when it comes to the courtship process. This book seems rudimentary but yet it is 100% accurate and I am living proof. Women: the truth sucks but it is still the truth and will set you free. Men chase. That's just how it is. And when chased by the right guy, if he is lucky enough to catch you, it will be a much better outcome than if you chase him. I thought times had changed. They have not. Please don't take this book to lightly. It is not funny or amusing or antidotal - it's the truth revealed.

After being widowed for two years I reentered the dating scene. I had been married for 15 years. Once I was out there it was a rude awakening. So much has changed in the dynamics of dating as well as throwing all the technology and dating services into the mix. Needless to say, it was very daunting. I haven't had the most pleasant experiences. I found this book to be an amazing tool. It has helped me to brush up on my dating skills and recognize what I should and should not be tolerating, despite the changing times. Don't settle for less! Read this book! From a writing standpoint, as a fellow Author, it is very well written and easy to understand. JC Szot

Wow I love this book! I only wished it was out there when I was in the dating scene for the second time, it would of made my life so much easier. The author Keephimattracted really pointed out some really good views on picking the right person. Such as the do's and don't many people make while looking for the one. If I was in the dating world I would definitely find this book very helpful. I am going to for sure share this book with both of my daughters.

An informative book, as all of Brian's are. He is very direct, yet tactful, and women should be thankful that there are men out there who are willing to let the proverbial "cat out of the bag". I have purchased several of Brian's books, he is a guy, so lets face it, he knows what he's talking about. Whether you choose to listen or not, as he will tell you, is your choice. If you, like myself, have been in the dark or uneducated about certain aspects concerning relationships, how the male mind works etc, he tells it like it is, and its refreshing. I find his other book, Red Flags particularly helpful, especially in the beginning of a new relationship when each party is bringing their "A" game, there are certain traits your new guy could be doing or bringing to the table that may seem harmless, but are quite the opposite, and should send you running for hills as the saying goes. I could go on and on, but if you have recurring issues, or just need more insight on dating etc, pick up any of his books, it will help you! cheers :)

Superb book...read it at one go...Gratitude..A must read...we receive academic education formally but life/relationship education to be taught formally is the need of the hour.

Really enjoyed this. Quick read finished in 1 night. Useful tips that you can implement straight away and especially handy if you are interviewing dates and not already in a relationship and made the mistakes that are hard to come back from!

I love his books, absolutely worth it. Reclaim your power, girls. Now. Don’t hesitate cause it will change you if you apply.

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