The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple

This book changed my life! Really! For non-professionals like me, it is a bit of a challenge, but well worth the effort. Dr. Lachkar's insights into the dynamics of the Borderline/Narcissistic couple are invaluable. This book goes way beyond the usual pop psychology. I learned so much about myself. If you think you are either the Borderline or the Narcissist you simply cannot do any better. I bought it in hard copy years ago and just purchased the Second Edition electronically. "The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple" is a true masterwork that I find myself returning to again and again.

I have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and was involved in a relationship with someone that had NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)but wasn't aware when I was IN the relationship. This book helped me not only understand why he and I continued the "dance" of what seemed like never ending turmoil, but also why we were attracted to one another to begin with. Many things from our childhood determines who we choose as romantic partners. If you or someone you know is BPD and involved with an NPD, this book is a MUST read! Excellent!

This book gets better every time I read it. It ties together so much & explains things clearly & in a way to be of practical use. It is very useful to both therapists & their clients & to people who have had or do still have intimate contact with this dynamic. It could be a sanity saver & maybe even a life saver.

This is a great book for those who are interested in knowing a little bit more about couple's relationship. The book may be a bit misleading as it may sound pathologizing but in fact the book talks about the real dynamics of couples.

great, came fast i will use this seller agian, great fast and just what i needed it arrived just in time for class and love this book

This is a great book to keep in the office and to help with those difficult questions that crop up in sessions with couples. Highly recommend for all professionals as an additional tool.

It takes two to tango - and to sustain a long-term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux" and the "Stockholm Syndrome (Trauma Bonding)" capture facets - two of a myriad - of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair. Lachkar's grossly overlooked book is the best introduction I know of to abusive dyads comprised of two people with personality disorders. Replete with case studies and an impressive theoretical background (mainly, but not only, Object Relations Theories) - the book is a vade mecum for both professionals and sufferers. There is more to an abusive dyad than mere pecuniary convenience. The abuser - stealthily but unfailingly - exploits the vulnerabilities in the psychological makeup of his victim. The abused party may have low self-esteem, a fluctuating sense of self-worth, primitive defence mechanisms, phobias, mental health problems, a disability, a history of failure, or a tendency to blame herself, or to feel inadequate (autoplastic neurosis). She may have come from an abusive family or environment - which conditioned her to expect abuse as inevitable and "normal". In extreme and rare cases - the victim is a masochist, possessed of an urge to seek ill-treatment and pain. Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited".

This was a present for my wife. She has and interest in the narcissistic personality and how it affects the people around them.