The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love

Fantastic and amazingly insightful book. written in such clear language.

Brilliant . Pia mellody is an outstanding writer, who shows how to move forward from codependency to intimacy. She has written books on co dependence and love addiction which are even better.

This book,took hold of me since very first page.Written is such a way that opens and explains very basic and important counterparts of dis functional and healthy relationships

Very good book explains clearly the roles of boundaries in a relationship and gives a good insight to how it works in therapy. Can help to identify if you have any points to work on within your own relationship.

Well written in lay terms. The example conversations are very helpful and easily relate to real life situations. I could almost hear some of the conversations and the blame I had introduced into them in the examples of how to get it wrong! I got a lot of insight into my own behaviour and I which I will be using in my life to improve my relationships with others.

life changing read

Still reading this but it seems to be what I wanted.

Essential reading for recovery from addiction

Pia Mellody is a WONDERFUL author with great insight and I feel that she is talking to me. I was SO disappointed when I got to the first page of the Appendix and the next page reads "You've finished. Before you go..." The rest of the book is there; I just can't get to it. If you buy this book, please be sure that you get through the whole publication before it's telling "you've finished" when you truly have not. I'm not sure what I'll do at this point but because I paid $10.83 for a Kindle version...I'm very disappointed. But again, let me say, I love Pia Mellody; I just don't love Amazon at the moment.

This is a good one for anyone wanting to deepen the quality of their relationships. Her framework is universally applicable and sets a good understanding of how intimacy works.

I liked this book as an uplifting follow up to Pia Mellody’s book Facing Codependence. It was a good companion read to that book, which goes deep into the roots of certain communication issues and dysfunctions. This is good, it addresses serious communication problems and typical bad habits that make people terribly unhappy and unable to connect in relationships. If anyone’s willing to read it, there’s probably something for you to gain. Could be very instructive for people with lots of conflict or fighting.

good book and very helpful.

It was so interesting and a learning experience to read about talking and listening boundaries, and the trauma that may get in the way of that. I really appreciated the detail of the Feelings Reduction section as a therapist.