It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

This book changed my life. I had gone in circles for many years and could never figure out what was wrong. After reading 3 chapter of this book, I had my answer. I am so glad to have been advised to read this great book. If you have been disconnected from your family for any reason, and especially due to trauma or abuse, read this book and take your time.

This book is for the adults who are wanting to take a look at your family of origin, and how generational trauma may be impacting your day to day life. This book has an approach that traumatic legacies can be passed down in families over generations including: depression, anxiety, chronic pain, phobias, obsessive thoughts, etc. This book is one that also pairs great with The Body Keeps the Score if you’re familiar with that one.I recommend buying the actual hard copy of this book, there are exercises where you write things down and it’s helpful to have a hard copy. I would say after reading this book, it really just helped me understand myself better. Helped me understand why I may do certain things, or have a certain viewpoint. It builds on the topic of generational trauma, and how we can overcome that. I have loved this book and it’s one I recommend to clients as well if they are wanting to explore topics like this in therapy. It’s very informative, and one that I would say you can’t just casually read.

I believe this book/process will be a game-changer for me, and I'm excited to see how it will continue to benefit me in the future.I wanted to express my gratitude for creating such a fantastic, clear and well laid out process to follow and implement. I've recommended it to several friends and family, and I'm confident they'll have the same positive experience.

I must say this, is my favorite read. Facilitating family constellations and healing sessions, the knowledge of this book is profound. If you want to learn more about yourself, if you are looking for inner peace, go get this book. Through a deeper understanding and awareness, your life will look different.

Excellent book in easy to understand terms.

"It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle" by Mark Wolynn is a groundbreaking exploration of the impact of inherited family trauma on our personal lives and behaviors. Wolynn, a leading expert in the field, delves into the complex interplay between genetics, emotional health, and family history, revealing how trauma can be transferred across generations. Through the use of compelling case studies and accessible psychological insights, the book offers a compelling argument for the profound influence of familial past on our present and future selves.One of Wolynn's most significant contributions is his development of a methodology to uncover and address inherited trauma. He presents practical tools and techniques that readers can use to trace the roots of their emotional issues back to unresolved traumas in their family histories. This approach not only broadens the understanding of personal and psychological issues but also provides a clear and actionable path towards healing and breaking the cycle of suffering.The book is highly accessible, aimed not only at professionals in the fields of psychology and psychiatry but also at anyone interested in understanding the deeper determinants of their behavior and emotional well-being. It's thought-provoking and potentially transformative, challenging readers to reconsider the origins of their issues and empowering them with the knowledge to enact change.While some may find the concept of inherited trauma difficult to grasp or even controversial, Wolynn supports his claims with a rich blend of scientific research, clinical experience, and narrative. "It Didn't Start with You" stands out as a compassionate guide towards understanding and overcoming the burdens we carry from our ancestors, encouraging a journey of self-discovery and healing.It's a must-read for anyone looking to explore the hidden dimensions of their family history and its impact on their life.

It is a groundbreaking exploration of how inherited trauma shapes our lives in ways we often don’t realize. The author brilliantly connects science, psychology, and personal stories to show how the emotional wounds of previous generations influence our behaviors, relationships, and health today. Strongly recommended!

This book will both piss you off and make you feel so much better. I was about half way through this book when I wanted to set it down and never pick it up reading things I didn't want to read. I'm so glad I kept reading because I can honestly say I actually took away something from this book and feel lighter and more aware of what I should be focused on. I high recommend don't let the voices in your head tell you to stop reading!