Wired to Connect: The Surprising Link Between Brain Science and Strong, Healthy Relationships

A simple and powerful explanation of how the brain and our relationships - familial, romantic, platonic - are inextricably linked. For those who have experienced positive relationships in their lives, this book explains how it benefits us. For those that haven't always (or ever) experienced positive relationships in their lives, it explains how those experiences can form roadblocks to our ability to form emotionally positive relationships, even when we intellectually understand the people we're trying to connect to are great people. It also explains how we can measure the quality of our relationships, with respect to how they provide C(alm).A(cceptance).R(esonance).E(nergy)., and how to use that information to make all of our relationships better.

Dr Banks's CARE protocol is deeply insightful. Calm, Accepted, Resonant and Energetic: these categories correspond to four brain circuits that are crucial not just to having strong, healthy relationships but also to thriving in life in general. Her argument for relationships as the centerpiece of our overall health and well-being is convincing, with exercises that are useful and easy to implement. I especially appreciated the CARE assessment, which was highly revealing about the nature of my own relationships.

I have anxiety and have found that being around people is exhausting because I am constantly struggling with thoughts that I'm going to do something wrong and upset people. This book really helped me to take a deeper look at how I bracketed way and how I can retrain my brain to learn to trust myself and the people around me again. I liked the examples of real people's issues and the hands on questionnaires and tasks. Unfortunately, there is so much information that I doubt ill be able to complete all the suggested activities. I would recommend this book to anyone that finds relationship s a struggle and exhausting.

I enjoyed the practical approach and the brain science research. The examples are powerful and the recommendations can be easily implemented. The system is practical and easy to remember.

Excellent book! The author writes in a clear, descriptive and humorous style with real-live tips and examples. I love it!

Very nice science and what to do with it. Good writing, not condescending, but not dumbed down, either. it's the kind of book you like to underline and refer back to again, and again. The connection between good feeling and good relationships has always intrigued me, but from reading this book I now understand much more in detail why that connection exists and how to promote it.

I read author, Amy Banks' "Four Ways To Click" prior to this purchase. She does her research and presents the science of connection in a compelling way. I value that approach much more than anecdotal stories that don't apply beyond the human interest story that those are wherein your results may vary.

This book contains practical strategies for being happy, or at least responsible for your own feelings. It was more self-help and less science than I had hoped, but still intereresting.

Book in excellent condition