Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boys, and the New Realities of Girl World

Excellent, thank you!

Excellent book to help understand teenagers from us parents/teachers. The Principle of the school my daughter went to noted this was the best book for me to buy to both gain a better understanding, and also laugh at it.

"Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition" is a highly informative and empowering book that serves as an essential guide for parents navigating the challenges of raising daughters in today's complex social landscape. Written by Rosalind Wiseman, this updated edition provides invaluable insights and practical advice for helping your daughter navigate cliques, gossip, boys, and the ever-evolving realities of girl world. Wiseman's expertise shines through as she explores the intricate dynamics of girl relationships, shedding light on the various roles girls play within cliques and the impact of social media on their interactions. She delves into the pressures and challenges faced by teenage girls, addressing topics such as body image, self-esteem, peer pressure, and the influence of popular culture. One of the strengths of this book is its ability to provide a comprehensive understanding of the issues girls face while maintaining a compassionate and empathetic tone. Wiseman emphasizes the importance of open communication, fostering healthy relationships, and building resilience in girls. She offers practical strategies and tools for parents to support their daughters and help them navigate the complexities of social dynamics with confidence and self-assurance. The book is well-organized and accessible, with each chapter addressing a specific aspect of girl world, supported by real-life anecdotes, research findings, and expert advice. Wiseman presents a balanced perspective, acknowledging the individuality of each girl's experience while also highlighting common patterns and challenges that many girls face. What sets "Queen Bees and Wannabes" apart is its focus on proactive and constructive solutions. The book encourages parents to become proactive allies, providing guidance on how to foster healthy friendships, teach assertiveness skills, and promote empathy and kindness. Wiseman's practical advice equips parents with the tools to empower their daughters, helping them navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of adolescence. It's worth mentioning that while the book primarily focuses on the experiences of cisgender girls, many of the principles and strategies can be applied to individuals across the gender spectrum. However, a more inclusive discussion of gender and intersectionality would have further enriched the book's perspective. In conclusion, "Queen Bees and Wannabes, 3rd Edition" is an invaluable resource for parents seeking to understand and support their daughters in today's complex social landscape. Wiseman's expertise, combined with her compassionate approach, provides a wealth of knowledge and practical advice. By delving into the intricacies of girl world and offering proactive solutions, this book empowers parents to help their daughters navigate the challenges of adolescence with confidence, resilience, and a strong sense of self.

I just started reading this book yesterday, so I am only a little ways into it, but from what I have read so far it is SPOT ON. As others stated...it's a long book. But..come on...girls are complex people! I have been a middle school teacher for 17 years and I have two daughters...one is 13 and one is nearly 8. I wish I had read this book years ago to better relate to my students. I plan on suggesting it as a book group read for my faculty and maybe even seeing if some of the students want to join in. My 13 year old read a little bit of it with me and her eyes kept opening up really wide. She said it was all totally relatable and she was easily able to point out where many of her friends were with relation to their status in the clique. Her grade is known for a complex girls clique and it's something she's been dealing with since 3rd grade. It got so bad for awhile that she actually decided to try a charter school to get away from the clique but as it always is with girls, cliques were at the charter school as well. It's just what girls do. As she read she stuck up her fingers in a hash tag symbol and said #relatable, 13 year old speak for this is accurate ;). Some parts of it so far were hard for me to read. I'm one of the floaters (she calls them champions in this book...I'm not sold on that term...makes it sound too positive and there are lots of drawbacks to being a floater, trust me). One of the parts I read about floaters literally gut punched me and made me realize why I've often felt as though I'm an island of myself. My 13 year old daughter is a floater as well. This is a trait that serves her sell sometimes, but also leaves her without a best friend. That can be hard. I can attest to that never having a best friend myself. Don't get me wrong...I have tons of friends, but have never had a best friend due to my floater tendencies. I would think if I had been a queen bee or the mother of a queen bee that this book might be a bit harder to read. What I have read so far doesn't cast queen bee's in the most favorable light, though that is not the author's intention. Her intention is to raise awareness of the cliques and how to navigate them. She doesn't say queen bee's are bad people...they are part of a hierarchal system. I've worked with several queen bee students before and, although many of them are mean girls, they are all just trying to navigate social structures like the rest of us and just need some extra guidance and parenting in order to use their status in a more positive way. Unfortunately, from what I have seen as an educator and parent, many parents of queen bees are in the dark about their child and make the situation worse.

Great book! Purchased for my daughter as she was going to meet the author at her school and wanted to read one of her books beforehand. The book is excellent for teens, especially girls. We received the book in perfect condition and on time.

Ive had this book a year, and have read it completely through, and continue to return to it and read different sections that I need. I find it highly valuable as I'm navigating life with two teenage daughters. It has helpful examples that I find so true to life, especially the examples of what to say or not to say. When I've used this book, the relationship I have with my daughters becomes stronger, more open, respectful and just all around better. I bought seven books last year, all with good reviews, and this is my favorite one, and the one that I return to.

Every teacher and every mother of a daughter should read this book. As a teacher I had no idea this was going on in my classroom. But after reading this book I could see it before my very own eyes. What a difference it made for me in understanding and controlling the dynamics in my room. I had a Queen Bee in my 5th grade class that quietly ruled the behavior of most of the girls and many of the boys! And when your daughters come home crying and complaining about a certain gal in the classroom, believe them Mom! Knowing this truly exists will help you help your daughter.

THIS book is my go to for making it through those years as a mother of a girl growing up. ABSOLUTELY could be used for boys but is directed toward girls. Both my daughters (all grown up now) used this when they were middle school and high school to survive the cliques and well you know, middle school. 5th grade mean girls are worse than….well anything. As mothers this is a good book for you to tolerate those attitudes and rolling of eyes. Probably most importantly, how to communicate during this time of an amazing supernova daughter that will grow up to be a powerful, well adjusted woman.

In the third edition, 95% of the text is a rather bland, off-the-shelf set of generic and incredibly condescending parenting advice, in the standard American middle class individualist main stream. Really mothering advice, most of the book can be summed up as "it's all the mother's fault that your daughter is lying to you". The "Queen Bee" teen girl dynamics that made this book famous, is really just a single chapter. If this sort of parenting manual is your cup of tea - good for you. Even many confused teen girls will like this sort of explanation of themselves, as a sort of simplifying self diagnosis.

Lots of insights. My girls are slightly younger but its good to anticipate whats coming. I will be reading this again.

This book was on the recommended reading list from our dance school. Oh boy, was this eye opening. Not only to what my daughter was/is experiencing but also provided some understanding of what I went through as a teenager as well.

Very interesting read, centered on the struggle of growing a daughter from childhood to adulthood. The author is American aber most of her suggestions apply to Europe as well. This new edition is updated with hints in how to manage social networks.

Haven't read it yet but was recommended to me