Too Loud, Too Bright, Too Fast, Too Tight: What to Do If You Are Sensory Defensive in an Overstimulating World

This book has been a big help explaining why I am the way I am. Now I understand why I was not like other kids, teens and adults while I was growing up. Why noise, certain lights, clothing and touch bothered me. Though I loved to be touch in comforting ways. The things that grounded me and what led me to where I am today. I currently have several autoimmune conditions and I can see where my sensory issues led to dis-ease which in turn helped leave me vulnerable to disease. I highly recommend this book to people having various sensory issues or family & friends of people with sensory issues. This book explains it very well then gives you ways to cope and deal with your condition. My husband is also reading this book so he can better assist me with what I am dealing with.

My copy of this book just arrived yesterday. So far it is excellent. The best part is that it specifically addresses sensory defensiveness in adults--including issues with intimacy and managing in the world, trying to function as an adult. It is written for a range of sensory defensive people from mild to severe, has a lot of suggestions for help with sensory integration and so far makes much more sense than The Out of Sync Child for this time in my life. I am making my way through it and will have to read it several times to digest everything, and I can't say I agree with all their theories on why people become sensory defensive, but what do I agree with 100%? I really like that they point out people with SI issues are constantly sent to therapy to work on their emotional issues, but at some point all the behavioral therapy and skill building and all the 'trying' in the world just isn't going to help manage sensory overload because it isn't about behavioral modification. Sometimes 'I can't' really does means 'I can't', not 'I won't'. This is so validating for someone who is constantly putting 200% effort in managing, but at the same time when even thinking about approaching certain situation (ok, many, many situations). I 'see black', shut down, and I really, truly 'can't.' It is not about laziness or even avoidance. However this book is not at all about giving up and being helpless. It gives many, many tools for creating a 'sensory diet'--plus it is written by someone who has dealt with sensory defensiveness herself. I want to convince as many people in my life as I can to read this book so they can have more understanding on why I can't just "grow up and be 'normal'."

As a mother of a HSP, this book was a treasure to help me understand the difficulties of her sensory processing. I highly recommend this book to anyone parenting or struggling with their own issues with sensory overload. Easily readable and can finish in a day or two.

My son has a serious sensory processing disorder- most every stimulus is too much for him. I learned very early how to make the world work for him most of the time, by only choosing comfortable clothes, allowing him to avoid noisy settings, accepting his strong food preferences and aversions (NEVER have even slightly soft egg, for example), adjusting the temperature to meet his comfort level,and letting him wear sunglasses when it is too sunny or the lights are too bright and ear phones when life is too loud. What I did not know is that there are therapies to help my son integrate the world around him in a less stressful way instead of needing to have the world constantly adjusted for his comfort. That there are treatments to make life easier for him. This was a very exciting book for me to read. The only negative- like many books of this type, the net is widely cast- it presents itself as a fix for "almost everything that is wrong with you". The things you read could apply to a lot of people that may not actually have a problem, and this diagnosis can cause many different problems in life, not all of which are actually related to a sensory processing issue.

This book is great - not just for kids, but adults too, who find that life is just too much at times. Does your child hate tags on clothing, anything with long sleeves, even in winter, anything tight that's not thin and soft? Hates too bright lights (mushroom cave preferred), or any loud sound that isn't theirs? I have an 18 yr old with Asperger's, and I wish I had this book years and years ago. Then I might have "gotten" what upset her. Why she wants quiet at all times. Why she goes ballistic if the pets/her sister start running around the house, thumping. Why she removes all tags, wants only certain clothes, and has a brown room (brown sheets, blankets, and dark posters/pictures). I found an old black metal sign with a bat on it, and she loved it. This book helps you to understand the child's needs, and why they seem so outrageous at times to you. And you may find yourself in the book - I did, and realized my reactions to things fit as well. Great resource for any parent with out-of-sync children, autistic/Asperger's, or those who are just not fitting into the skin of the world.

If you think someone you know, or even yourself has issues with sensory experiences, this is the book to help explain it all. This actually helped me not just understand my 9 year old son, but also my mother, who I just always thought was overly fussy and that she really couldn't possibly care about anything so minute or invisible to the rest of us, like how long the sparkling water has been sitting in her glass, or what time of day I cut the herbs for the garnish. But it is all real. And my son has cried one time about the sheets being too scratchy. I really get it all better now. This book is a must for sensory families.

excellent. have had sensory processing all my life, this book explained a lot!! I cope much better with the world around me now. good read. will help parents with kids who have some 'odd' things like only wearing certain fabrics because others itch.

This book had many helpful suggestions for managing a very sensitive person like myself who is easily overwhelmed by noise and lights. There is no magic solution however this helps with tools to use.

Love this book. Really helped me understand

Spedizione sempre puntuale. Il libro è molto interessante, sono felice di averlo trovato e ricevuto molto rapidamente!

Libro para comprender el procesamiento sensorial y obtener pistas sobre como mejorar la calidad de vida de las personas con TPS.